Raising good kids in today’s culture is no easy task, and Zane and I are constantly on the lookout for good resources. I want to share a wonderful one that I used with all 3 of our girls.
Passport2Purity® by Dennis and Barbara Rainey is a kit with CD’s and other materials designed to guide a parent and preteen child in heart-to-heart communication about issues such as sex, purity, peer pressure, and dating. The Raineys suggest that the material be used during a weekend getaway, with fathers taking sons and mothers taking daughters. A goal of the parent/child weekend is to discuss crucial issues and help the child make decisions in advance as to how they will face the turbulent teen years.
I took my daughters on a P2P weekend the summer before they turned 13. The material is very thorough and very straightforward, covering issues that I likely would have avoided discussing with my girls at the time had I not had this resource to guide me through it.
Here is an overview of Passport to Purity…
Session One: Beginning the Journey Challenges, Traps, and Choices
This session lays the groundwork for the weekend. Discusses challenges adolescents may encounter and choices they will have to make.
Session Two: Running with the Herd Friendships and Peer Pressure
Session two leads the child on an evaluation of their friendships and an evaluation of themselves as a friend. It asks them to consider the influence their peers are having on them and the influence they are having on their peers.
Session Three: Ready for an Upgrade? Changes in Him, Changes in Her
Session three discusses the physical changes that are going to occur in the childâ€™s life. It encourages him or her to treat the opposite sex with respect. Separate sections are addressed to the young men and young women. It also explains the act of sex and how it is a gift from God to be saved for marriage.
Session Four: Destination: LÃ© Pure Setting Boundaries
Session four talks about setting boundaries both physically and emotionally and deciding beforehand how far you will go. Encourages parents to set boundaries on the front end with their child and discusses the consequences of not having boundaries.
Session Five: Crossing the Date Line Seeing Dating Differently
Session five is a summation of the weekend. Parent and child hopefully will reach an agreement about when a child will date and what that will look like.
I can attest from my own experience that this is excellent material and that a Passport to Purity weekend can be a wonderful investment in the future of your child. I highly recommend this resource for any of you with young children approaching adolescence. I also highly recommend Family Life Today. It is one of the best websites available that focuses on growing and strengthening families.
Click here to learn more about Passport to Purity and to order the kit. If you have done this or plan to do it, please let me know! I would love to hear from you!